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Being Human is tough S&#@!

2/12/2020

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We have good educations, jobs, homes, partners, kids, yet we think it should feel sooooo much easier.  Add in what we see on everyone else’s Facebook, Insta and voila:  We are losers!   Let's be real….I can't think of the last time I saw a pic of someone who was deliberately celebrating their double chin…. The only reason I have posted some of those less favorable photos is ONLY because I don't want to continue this perfection image to the world….for me personally, it's too tiring.  I have 2 chins and cellulite.  Fact. 
We, at the end of the day, are animals.  We naturally strive to be the fittest of the pack so we can attract the healthiest, sexiest mate.  We are also naturally pack animals, we look and desire praise from others and to be "chosen".  My question for you, as animals w a fairly well-developed prefrontal cortex, is WHO do you actually value the praise from, who do you care to be CHOSEN by.  Narrow your scope.  We have so much info and chatter in our ears but we can choose who, if anyone gets to dictate our value.  This being alive, being human thing is really hard.  We have not evolved enough as a species to have our animal instincts be immune to social media pressures.  We're still too simple.  The ask is that you choose how you are going to be valued and by whom.  Also choose how you want to portray yourself to the world around you.  Are you tired of being perfect online but naturally imperfect in real life?  Merge them.  Choose the real one.
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    I, Sarah Barkley, am a psychotherapist here in Golden, CO.  I specialize in adolescents, families and women.  Nothing makes me feel more fulfilled than seeing someone wake up and see their beauty... whether for the first time, or once again.  I believe in therapy, I believe in the struggle, the work, the discussion, the questions, the tears.  If it's a life worth fighting for, one must fight for it.  I've never met a life not worth fighting for.

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