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connection overload

5/14/2016

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Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Linked-in.... the list goes on and on and on.  These platforms can be so incredible to share our lives but also so hollow when it comes to real connection not to mention the pressure to stay current on people's lives.  I recently have been met w a rash of "ohh, I saw your trip, it looked amazing and the baby is adorable, that dish you cooked for your Dad's bday looked awesome!" (said by someone who has not called my phone or emailed me or even texted me in eons) and in response to "how have you been?', I've been met w friends and acquaintances saying, 'well you saw that guy I went to dinner with last weekend.."   EEEEK...I did not see that guy, should I be scheduling time before a coffee w a friend to research their social media for things I should know?  When was ‘catching up” not realllly catching up.  I really would love to chat about that trip or have you meet my baby or share that recipe of the pic you 'liked'...shoot, I'd even love to cook it for you but didn't even know you were that interested in my life.  

The question is: am I flattered?  Yes.  Were they probably bored at work or unwinding after work? Yes.  Big question:  When you receive 'likes', do you really feel liked?  If we as humans are really pack animals, as we’re designed to be, we need to spend less time “liking” and more time doing that which really shows care and love: picking up the phone, scheduling a coffee.
Think about the last time you really felt connected to through social media…and is there more you’d like.

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    I, Sarah Barkley, am a psychotherapist here in Golden, CO.  I specialize in adolescents, families and women.  Nothing makes me feel more fulfilled than seeing someone wake up and see their beauty... whether for the first time, or once again.  I believe in therapy, I believe in the struggle, the work, the discussion, the questions, the tears.  If it's a life worth fighting for, one must fight for it.  I've never met a life not worth fighting for.

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